You are good !

There are a lot of days when things are more than you think you can handle.

Sometimes work gets swamping. and at others there are too many things in your personal to-do list (if you make one :) ). Or sometimes they are just sheer bad days ! I am just talking about normal busy days.This post is not intended for  extreme situations, rather it is for daily routine busy-ness. In short, I am talking about the days when there is "too much" on your plate to handle.

I have increasingly realized that in those cases, it helps a lot to STOP.. take a moment.. relax and take a deep breath and say to yourself (literally, not just in your head ! )

I am okay.

I am doing good.

I will be fine.

I can do this.

I will get through this.

If that is not doing much, go to your friends or family -- your support system. I am hoping you do have such a support system in place -- people who care for you !. Go to them and tell them this is I want you to tell me :

You are doing good.

You can do this !

You will get through this.

It is going to be okay.

Oh, and do not forget to say a thanks when it is fine and good :)

It is really important to believe we can get through the difficulties, only then can we can get through them. When we do get through it one day at a time, one hour at a time, we will look back at these days and smile on the fact that we really did it :) Positive energy can go over and beyond to help us.

Take the next small step, one at a time. Do not stop believing in yourself. Because you really are good !
There are times when some of your closest friends will tell you - "you cannot do this", and they will forget to add an "I think" before that statement. That's when you know you need to stop listening to them for your own good. 

Positive encouraging words can have more effect that we think they will have, same goes with negativeness around trying to bring us down. Get away from negativeness as fast as you can and as far as you can ! We need the positiveness because a lot of times we tend to over-think things and under-estimate our potential. We stop believing in ourselves sometimes.

That's the time we need a reality check. A check emphasizing : "We are awesome ! "

This reminds me of the scene from a movie I saw recently "Captain Philips", and the best part of the movie in my opinion was when the US Navy captain is saved from the pirates, the paramedic tells him "You are okay. You are fine."

So if you don't already, then take this moment and here-on :

Love yourself ! Believe in yourself ! Because you really can do this ! You are good !

Change.. the dark knight

Here comes my another one-off post after a span of an year :)
I have been thinking quite a bit about the phenomenon of change since some time. I often wonder why is it that sometimes change is met with so much resistance, and at others, welcomed with arms wide open :-)

Change is inevitable quite often. It leads to evolution of species, ensures their survival by helping them fight in the race for natural selection. Well, let's not go too far.. may be we should just talk about change as a process in our own lives. Change is a constant part of growing up as human beings. It is good to be a kid at heart, however, at the outside, it is equally important keep up with the pace of changes around. I am not saying change is not scary.  It is scary. It is unknown .. unfamiliar territory. It seems more difficult once you get used to the convenience of present day things. It is easier to live in our own bubble, stick to the familiar and resist the change. It is easier to hold on to the known things in life -- that is comfortable. Unknown is scary, for the simple reason that it is not known.

Sometimes, change is just handed over to us. It is not a choice we make on our own. It takes time to adapt to change in those cases. However, we as human beings are programmed to adapt and get used to the change. We like it or not -- is not really consequential in this case. However, at other times, it comes as an option. It is a choice we make for our own reasons. But if that is what needs to be done, then it needs to be done, for a better tomorrow. And in those cases, it needs efforts. It needs planning. It needs courage ..to step from the known to the unknown in hope of a new and better known. And hope is a good thing !

May be change is the nature's way of helping us evolve into better human beings. May be it is good to step out of our shells once in a while.. and welcome the change. Some times the stakes associated with change are too high. But, is not there a risk associated with each breath of our life ? A sunrise is a change after a night.. and it is beautiful ..and not similar to night. What is life without risk? Most good things with high stakes!  May be that's why we should put in efforts for change sometimes. Welcome it with open arms and open hearts :-) Embrace the change, because you do not have forever to try it at some other time  and postpone it for later till  it becomes infeasible to try.
Life is now, today, right now -- live it while you can !

The title The Dark Knight, I used to think the name somehow indirectly refers to the dark nights faced by the people of Gotham before they get to see the light at the dawn because of the efforts of their knight. I love this beautiful dialogue from the same movie : "He is the hero Gotham deserves, not the one it needs right now". However, it might even be referring  to a knight.. a warrior .. a solider in the dark nights.

May be this holds for change too. It is like a dark knight. It helps us fight like a solider in our battles of lives. May be we like to tell ourselves "Change is the hero we deserve, not the one we need right now" .. However, as the people of Gotham would really have been better off by accepting the real hero, may be we should accept changes in our life too with a smile :)